In Pursuing Our Dreams We Can be Our Best Friend or Worst Enemy

by Joyce Dunaway @DunawayJoyce

Do you often put yourself down by saying or thinking things like I should have done better? Our ‘shoulds’ can keep us from moving forward.

Negative self-talk can result in a doubtful mindset which convinces us we’ll never achieve our goals. If we allow this to continue long enough, we will quit trying.

By changing our negative thoughts into positive ones we will be encouraged to proceed.

Following are some suggestions that will help you become your best friend instead of your worst enemy:

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As he thinks in his heart, so is he (Proverbs 23:7). Thinking positive thoughts keeps us focused on the possibilities instead of dwelling on negative outcomes. If you’re a writer, repeat over and over “I’m a great writer”. It might also help to have this proclamation printed on note cards or sticky notes and place them in your home and car. When a negative thought enters your mind, replace it with positive quotes.


Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path (Psalm 119:105). Your word I have hidden in my heart, that I might not sin against You (Psalm 119:11). By having scripture verses stored in our heart we have easy access to words of encouragement, praise, and guidance.


I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me (Philippians 4:13). When we ask for divine intervention, God will guide us and prepare the way. He will lead us to the people we need, the words to write, and the best publishing venue.


The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much (James 5:16). Asking God for strength, wisdom, and guidance allows Him to provide what we need when we need it. Trust His timing. He knows what’s best for you.


Don’t expect everything to fall in place immediately. Don’t scold yourself for making mistakes. Learn from them and keep going.


When you’ve accomplished a specific step, pat yourself on the back or treat yourself. Celebrating each accomplishment will keep your mind upbeat. Visualize a large celebration at the completion of your goals.

I would love to hear how these suggestions or others have helped you develop positive self-talk so you become your best friend instead of your worst enemy. Please share your comments in the section below.

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